Dec 16

Here’s 6 Reasons Why People Cheat In Relationships.

When an affair is discovered by an innocent spouse it is very common for that person to exclaim that it “came completely out of the blue”. This may or may not be the case however as there are usually signs that point to the fact that a partner may be cheating even though these signs may be quite subtle. Throughout life, opportunities for an affair often present themselves – in most cases these opportunities will be resisted. Affairs that do happen are normally as the result of problems in a relationship that are not being resolved.

There are many signs of cheating, some obvious, some not so.

Here are the six most common reasons for a person indulging in an extramarital affair outside marriage:

1. Protest
There are many people who consider that they are within their rights to have an affair particularly if there is no intimacy at home because they and their spouse are continually arguing over matters. These people will often seek understanding and peace in the arms of another person as compensation for the problems they are facing in their marriage.

2. Insecurity

Some of the more common reasons for this are:

Many men are not able to come to terms with their wife devoting so much of her time to the children and ignoring their spousal communication and contact.
This has a flow on effect to lack of a general lack of intimacy in a marriage which leaves a man dissatisfied and unsure about the strength of their relationship.
A man may be over involved at work or at play and neglect his wife and their marital relationship. It is quite common in this event for a woman to stray into a relationship with another man who will give her those things that are missing in the relationship with her husband.
Advancing age is a major reason for a person feeling insecure. Ageing brings with it a feeling of vulnerability and mortality.

3. Sex & Love
When one of the spouses has waning or no interest in a sexual relationship with their partner but the partner’s sexual feelings are still strong, an extramarital affair is often thought to be the answer to sexual fulfillment.

A person may still require the same kind of love that they first had in their relationship so many years ago. This is of course not realistic because the total sexual and emotional “in love” feeling that both partners had for each other is a short lived thing – many people don’t acknowledge this and crave for what was in the early period of their relationship. When that rush of sexually charged love goes, a person may think that something is wrong with their relationship and look for fulfillment elsewhere.

In many of these situations a straying partner will convince themselves that they have only indulged in an illicit relationship because of what is sometimes called the “fun” that is missing from their marital relationship.

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4. The One Night Stand
We often hear about “the one night stand” – this is more often than not an affair that has little relevance to the person that has indulged in it. Often such an affair is conducted in a state of intoxication or out of sexual curiosity. The impact on your partner, if they find out about it, can be devastating nevertheless.

5. Growing Apart
Couples interests change and often go in different directions sometimes reaching a point where they can no longer give each other what they need.

6. Breakdown of a Relationship
When there are irreconcilable differences in a marital relationship it is not uncommon for partners to seek out [someone a person] who is more compatible to ensure that they have companionship when their marriage is dissolved.

Here are a couple of very common reasons why some individuals are “affair prone”, and remain having extramarital affairs throughout a committed marriage, although they mostly have no intention of breaking it up:

Excitement
There are those people who are obsessed by their early feelings of love and intimacy with their partner and desperately want those feelings and involvement to continue unabated although they understand that this is an unrealistic expectation. A break up with their partner is generally not a consideration so they become involved in secret meetings with willing partners who provide them with the exciting love and intimacy that is now missing in their married relationship.

Fear of Intimacy
Some people have difficulty in coping with full intimacy in a married relationship. Many of these people, although they love their partner, simply want to distance themselves from the intimate side of marriage. A relationship with another person often achieves this end. At the same time such an arrangement ensures that they are not put in the position of full intimacy with either their spouse or lover. This compromise, strangely enough, tends to satisfy the requirement for a degree of detachment from their marital relationship.

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